根据网友爆料的学校通知内容截图,5月20日,网络上的520情人节,哈工大联合哈尔滨南岗区民政局,为学校在校适龄学生开通的办理结婚证绿色通道,办理条件为男方年满22岁,女方年满20岁。这件事情应该如何看待?【读双语文章,涨知识,学英语,订阅不迷路】
大学对学生的婚育态度发生转变
以前,国家提倡晚婚晚育,大学对于大学生的恋爱和婚姻持反对态度。在大学校园出现同居、怀孕、未经许可的结婚,都会受到学校的惩处。但是,时代发生了变化,现在的大学,尤其是重点院校对大学生结婚,普遍持鼓励的态度,晚婚晚育变成了优婚优育。
类似于哈工大这样的重点院校,无论男女都是属于经历高考选拔后的优质青年,拥有聪明的大脑、健康的体魄、坚韧不拔的意志力。在校结婚,往往是优质人类的强强结合,基础大学的纯真爱情,值得鼓励。
大学的婚姻更加纯洁,大学毕业以后,很容易出现女生嫁给金钱,男生追求金钱无暇顾及婚姻的情况。出现这样的结果,往往令人惋惜。学校鼓励大学生结婚,为大学生领证开绿灯,恰恰保卫了大学爱情的这份纯真。
除了哈工大以外,很多大学也对大学生持支持的态度,比如有些大学提出,凭结婚证可以换学分;有的大学为领证的同学开放夫妻间的申请;还有的大学还为大学生在校期间的生育开绿灯。
大学生结婚生育是否影响学业
我个人不认为大学生结婚对学业会有影响,至少在哈工大这样的985级别的高校里不会。
大学生结婚肯定是得到双方父母认可后做出的决定,大学生的父母在人生的这个阶段还有比较稳定的工作和收入,能够为两个年轻人的婚姻提供支持。不过,本人反对大学生私自结婚,如果大学生要在校结婚,相信辅导员和双方家长也会有充分地沟通,不会让私自结婚的事情发生。
如果大学生在校期间生育,双方父母都还比较年轻,可以帮助孩子照顾孩子,也可以为其保护提供经济支持。根据以往的案例,大学生生育后,重拾学业,不仅没有对学业构成影响,还因为承担了更大的责任而更加努力,不少学生还获得奖学金,成功考研。
女大学生在校结婚生育,对就业还有一定的优势,早在十几年前,上海的一些女大学生就开始大学领证,大四偷偷怀孕,毕业就生孩子,生完孩子再就业。因为已经生育,公司没有顾虑,这些女大学生就业后往往可以顺利升迁。晚婚晚育的,反而因为担心生育影响自己在公司的地位,影响了婚姻和最佳生育年龄。以前是偷偷地这样做,现在的大学生可以名正言顺的这样做,这是一种聪明的做法。
大学生结婚如何为孩子提供经济基础?
有人担心大学生结婚没有经济基础,我个人认为这是用老思想看新问题。
现在正在读大学的大学生,他们是70后、85前的孩子,这个年龄层经历了中国经济发展的红利期,普遍家里既不缺钱,又不缺房。他们的孩子根本没有购房的压力,不用买房,结婚需要的彩礼和仪式的开销也就不是什么大问题。
他们的父母也很年轻,可以为孩子的抚养提供支持。等到孩子需要在教育上有投入的时候,他们的事业也很稳定了。早婚早育反而是让这群年轻人充分利用了父母的资源,减轻的负担。
80后、90后很多人为了买房买车,耽误的婚姻和生育,到头来发现还是口袋空空。00后的孩子,未必需要按照80后、90后的价值观去安排生活。
英文版:What does the joint initiative between Harbin Institute of Technology and the Civil Affairs Bureau to approve student marriage on May 20th (520) signify?
According to a screenshot of a school notice circulating on the internet, Harbin Institute of Technology (HIT) and Harbin's Nangang District Civil Affairs Bureau have jointly established a "green channel" for registering marriages among eligible students at the university on May 20th, also known as the 520 Valentine's Day in China. In order to apply, the male student must be over 22 years old and the female student must be over 20 years old. What is your perspective on this matter?
The attitude of universities towards student marriage and childbirth has changed.
In the past, the government advocated for late marriage and late childbirth, and universities held a negative attitude towards college students' romantic relationships and marriages. Cohabitation, pregnancy, and unapproved marriages on campus were all subject to punishment by the university. However, times have changed, and nowadays, universities, particularly top-ranking institutions, generally encourage student marriage instead of advocating for late marriage and childbirth.
Top universities such as Harbin Institute of Technology select exceptional young people through the rigorous process of the national college entrance examination (known as Gaokao) who possess intelligent minds, healthy physical fitness, and indomitable willpower. In-school marriage often results in the coupling of high-quality individuals, and this pure love is worthy of encouragement.
College marriages are purer, and after graduation, it's easy for female graduates to marry for money and male graduates to pursue wealth without caring about marriage. Such outcomes are often regrettable. Encouraging student marriage, granting marriage licenses to students, and opening up policies for student couples defends the purity of university love.
Apart from HIT, many other universities also uphold a supportive attitude towards student marriage. For instance, some universities offer academic credits in exchange for a marriage certificate; some universities open their doors to spousal applications; and some universities give the green light to student births during their collegiate years.
Does getting married and having children affect the academic performance of college students?
Personally, I don't think that getting married during college affects academic performance, at least not in top-tier universities like Harbin Institute of Technology.
College students who choose to get married have likely received approval from both sets of parents. At this stage of life, the parents of college students generally have stable jobs and incomes and can provide support for the young couple's marriage. However, I do not support college students getting married without proper communication with their academic counselors and family members. If a college student decides to get married while in school, there should be adequate communication with all parties involved to ensure everything is in order.
If a college student gives birth while still enrolled in university, the parents of both parties are typically still relatively young and capable of supporting the child both financially and with childcare. In the past, many college students who became parents successfully resumed their studies and even received scholarships and went on to pursue graduate studies due to their increased sense of responsibility.
Female college students who get married and have children while still in school also have an advantage when they're ready to enter the workforce. Over ten years ago in Shanghai, some female college students would get married while still in college, secretly get pregnant in their senior year, give birth after graduation, and then begin working. Since they already had children, companies were not concerned about them having more children, and these women frequently advanced through promotions. Conversely, those who delay marriage and childbirth due to career considerations may miss out on their ideal time to start a family. Although getting married and having children used to be done covertly, it is now a smart decision that can be made openly by many college students today.
How do college students who get married provide an economic foundation for their children?
Some people are concerned that college students who get married do not have an economic foundation, but personally, I think this is an old-fashioned way of looking at new problems.
College students currently enrolled in university are children of those born in the 1970s and early "85 generation", a period of time when China was experiencing the dividends of economic development. They generally come from families with no shortage of money or housing. Their children do not face the pressure of buying a house, and the expenses associated with getting married, such as dowry and ceremony, are not a major issue.
Their parents are also relatively young and can provide support for their children's upbringing. By the time their children require investment in education, their parents' careers are also well-established. Early marriage and childbearing actually allow the younger generation to make full use of their parents' resources and reduce the burden.
Many people from the "80s" and "90s" generations have postponed marriage and childbirth due to buying houses and cars, only to find out they are still empty-handed in the end. Children born after the year 2000 may not necessarily need to arrange their lives according to the values held by those born in the "80s" or "90s".